Court and Birthday party!

What a day! How many of you have had to go to Court in the morning and then have to get into the festive mood to celebrate your kid's birthday? My youngest son was 15 years old, yesterday! One thing I have to say, a day that started so sad and gloomy and with rain, too, ended on a real great note with my son's birthday. The entire family gathered and celebrated; it was a lot of fun!
Why I had to go to Court? I will TRY to be brief about it. I have a step daughter (my husband's daughter from a previous marriage). This young adult, at the age of 20 is still seeking child support, she is going to school, she refuses to take a part-time job. She never has or does consult my husband in any decisions, whether it is picking a school, choosing a location where to live or getting engaged...
She was a freshman at AU in Washington DC, she transferred to Saint Peter in Jersey City, NJ as a Sophomore. She just started her Junior year at AU in Paris, France; she is engaged to a man about 10 to 12 years her senior. She says she is not living with him so that she may still receive child support. The Ocean County Courts allowed her to file pro se, free of charge, twice and yesterday, the State of New Jersey picked up the cost of the phone call conference that had to be made while we were in Court because she was in Paris. The judge calling her a nice young lady and not even trying to be understanding of parents in general... Sure, you parents out there... let us pay for our children's expenses till our children are 40 or 50. Let us handicap them and shall they never be able to become indipendent and self reliant. Especially children of divorce. The mother of this nice young lady? She is exempt from paying any child support. Why? Because she is unemployed... Perhaps my husband should become unemployed, too. However, we would not want that, we have 3 children that love us, unconditionally, two of them are still minor and have had to do without so many things because for the last two years their sister had to have her child support... She is too good for a $7.00 per hour job.
Please, God grant me the serenity to accept this situation, fully knowing that there is not one thing that can be done to change it.
To all of you that read this blog, this is not directed to any of you. Please, do not take this to offense. I need to rant to a situation that has been driving this family crazy, sad, frustrated. We are trying very hard not the let "HATE" come into it! Please, feel free to comment.